Mudita means sympathetic joy, finding joy in joy of others. In plain words, finding happiness in the happiness of others. For example, we cannot go to see the ball game because we have to work on Saturday. However, your co-work is going because he does not have work. Turning that envy into joy is what Mudita is all about. You are happy that your co-worker can go and you find happiness it in. It seems counter intuitive. But it is a great tool to counter envy and jealousy. Jealousy is like poison, it can consume us like a wild fire. It is yet another conditioning respond that we need to confront.
A past colleague is doing very well in his career. He was behind me and now is way ahead. No doubt, I envy him and jealous as well. Why it wasn't be? Don't I deserve it? Why the right condition didn't happen to me? I also started to blame myself for this and that I didn't do or should have done. This can pretty quick turn into bitterness, self destruction, depression which all lead to poor decision makings. These are all not necessary and counter productive. The colleague must have done something right that all the condition come together for him to reach his new high in career. Mudita. I should feel happy for him that finally his efforts get notice and he is able to reach the high point of his career. I am glad his is doing well. It is not a zero sum game. His gain is not my loss. I truly find happiness in the happiness of his success.
This is profound. I turned jealousy into joy. I turn anguish into joy. I turn ignorance into wisdom. I am a happy person. I can make sound decisions which make conditions come together for my success. I turn dirt into gold!
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